helping themsleves

Have you ever helped someone and then they turn right around and undo what you just did to help them?  It's frustrating, as you feel you've wasted your time and tty didn't seem to appreciate the effort you put in towards helping them with their problem. I've learned that I was probably helping the person fix the wrong problem in their life, and after realizing that I felt extremely sorry for the person I was trying to help. Why is it that we dont take the time to get to the bottom of the issue before we jump in with a solution? I'm really bad at tis...I'm so eager to help them I hear their need, jump in and ten realize that was just a symptom to the real issue and had i taken a little more time, I could have really helped them, Ultimately, the idea is to get them to help themselvs, but that can open another can  of worms, so we need to gt to the root of thatproblem as well....I guess I sometimes think people are one dimensional and have one master problem and iwill solve all their problems...The bottom line is teach a peron to fish...becasue you dont want to catch fish for the world the rest of your life...